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The Power Of Being Naive

The Power Of Being Naive

One of the best gifts in my life happened because I was too naive to know that I was being naive.  

As I reflect back on it, it was part my expectation for others to do the right thing, a little about ‘you don’t get what you don’t ask for’ and even more about knowing I had nothing to lose.

This is definitely true for us actors who are fighting so hard for our dreams.

You can’t expect to make your dreams come true if you don’t go after them, right?  We all know that.  Our passion for acting is the fire that gets us out of bed every day to keep going for it, even though so many voices (sometimes even our own) are screaming, “no” and “it’s too hard”. 

Because regret is insidious.

And while I regret a lot of things in my life,  my biggest regrets are the things I didn’t do.

Luckily,  following my dreams to be an actor isn’t one of them.  And it isn’t for you, either. So high five, my friend.  We’re doing it!  
 

The Butter Cookie Breakthrough: How I Learned To Spike My Productivity

The Butter Cookie Breakthrough: How I Learned To Spike My Productivity

I’m new to the entrepreneur lifestyle and it has been a huge learning curve with many highs and many lows. And lots of ‘what the hell have I dones’.

It has felt a bit like getting a ticket for a 2018 Simon & Garfunkel Nostalgia Tour (someone please make this happen) but then finding out it’s in London and my passport won’t be renewed in time.  

I’m being dramatic but I had a recent wake-up call that turned my business on its head

Here’s what happened.

Want to Know the Biggest Commercial Audition No-No? I'll Tell You What It Snot.

Want to Know the Biggest Commercial Audition No-No? I'll Tell You What It Snot.

I recently had a commercial audition where I was asked to tell a story about the importance of family.  

That was it. The whole audition was just a little, lighthearted, fun story.  

Sounds easy enough, right?

Well, it was, except I committed one major commercial auditioning faux pas.

The Real Reason Your Social Media is a Pain in the A$$

The Real Reason Your Social Media is a Pain in the A$$

Social Media is kind of a pain in the ass. 

You wish it was easier to use. You wish it was fun. You wish that attracting gobs of followers with your witty banter and interesting posts was a no-brainer.

You make excuses not to do it like, “I’m too old”, or “I wouldn’t know what to post”, but deep down you’re actually afraid that no one will like your stuff, follow you back, or that you might get blasted for saying something dumb, amiright?

And then a new kind of fear creeps in.  It’s called FOMO and it sounds like, “What’s a meme?” or  “Whose abs are they talking about?”

I know that’s what you’re thinking because I used to think it, too.

Demystifying the Aha Moment

Demystifying the Aha Moment

As most of you know, I’ve spent a lot of time blogging about the guts of my business, how I’m feeeeeeling about it all, and how crazy cool it is when an actor tells me they had a lot of “aha moments” while taking my course.  

You know who else talks a lot about her feelings?  Oprah.  And you wanna know who happens to be pretty freaking incredible actor? Yup, right again.  Oprah...wth two Oscar noms to prove it.  No surprises there. She’s pretty extraordinary.

So extraordinary, in fact, that she’s the reason “aha moment” is in the dictionary in the first place! She used it so much that the Merriam-Webster people decided that it was worthy of becoming an immortalized part of the English language.  #lifegoals

For what it’s worth, other recent additions to the dictionary are “jiggy”, “shizzle” the verb “MacGyver”, and the 2017 word of the year, youthquake.  Hmm.

But back to aha moments.  Today I’m hoping to give you one by showing you how to infuse yourself into any character you have to play.

The "Audition Hotline" And The Vortex of Self-Doubt

The "Audition Hotline" And The Vortex of Self-Doubt

The Sunday New York Times business section recently ran an article called, “Reese Witherspoon’s Second Act”.  

And it had me cheering.

Not only because she wants to create television for other woman – actresses, directors, and writers – but because Reese is absolutely killing it as a producer (cast in point, Meryl Streep signed on for Big Little Lies, Season 2. Are you kidding me???)  which means she's figured out a way to take back control in the industry. Go girl! 

How to Use Predictability in Your Favor. Every Time.

How to Use Predictability in Your Favor. Every Time.

My daughter recently turned 13.

And I know this will mean many, many changes in our house– terrifying changes that are sure to keep me up at night wondering what happened to my baby girl.   But, for now, there’s  one thing I know I can count on for sure – her birthday meal requests.

Her menu looks like this, every year:

How Getting Really Pissed Off Helped Me Find My Groove

How Getting Really Pissed Off Helped Me Find My Groove

She doesn’t know it (yet, because I just figured it out for myself)  but my mom is the inspiration behind the Magnetic Actor Method.

But not in the, “Hi, it’s me, your mom. I just called to say I have this great idea for a business you should start” kind of inspiration.

That’s not even close.  Here’s the backstory.

The 7 Real Reasons You Didn't Get That Callback

The 7 Real Reasons You Didn't Get That Callback

Booking the job isn’t just about a stellar audition. We all know that. Yet, there are soooo many things that actors do, every day, that destroy their chances of booking the job.

There are 7 that I think are the worst – The Seven Deadly Sins.  

Are you guilty of any of these? Let’s find out.

5 Ways To Supercharge Your Next Audition

5 Ways To Supercharge Your Next Audition

I totally rocked an audition last week.  

Everything went exactly as I had planned, and I knew I’d booked it.

As we all know, auditioning is scary.  As an actor, you’re putting yourself on the line in every audition, and most of the time, you hear crickets.  It’s easy to start getting in your head and questioning whether you’ve got what it takes.  

I’m a firm believer in leveraging one’s strengths in all facets of the business, and for me, that includes audition prep and the moment I walk into the casting room.  That’s what my Magnetic Actor Method is all about, and it has transformed the way I approach auditions.  Here’s what it might look like in the the audition room, and how it worked for me.

The Only Thing That Really Matters (P.S. It's Not Chocolate)

The Only Thing That Really Matters (P.S. It's Not Chocolate)

I know it’s December, but I’m still thinking about Thanksgiving. And it’s because of my brothers.

Yes, because I’m thankful for them, but there’s more to it.  It really comes down to that I don’t see them enough.  

We see each other every Thanksgiving which is pretty incredible for a family strewn across the country:  My mom is in Hawaii, I’m in California, one brother is in Michigan and the other brother is in New York.

But about 5 years ago we made it a priority to see each other every Thanksgiving, because life is short. And family is what matters.

Here’s what happened.

How to Stand Out (Like "This Is Us" In A Sea Of Great TV)

How to Stand Out (Like "This Is Us" In A Sea Of Great TV)

Have you ever been in situations where you can’t “see” something even though you’re told it’s staring you in the face?  Or maybe you’ve heard the term “it’s like wallpaper”.  

If you haven’t heard that term before... it’s not a good thing. Imagine this: When the wallpaper was new, it was exciting and you loved it, but now that you’ve seen it a gagillion times, you don’t even notice it.  And voila,  “It’s like wallpaper”.  Boring.

No one wants to be like wallpaper – especially in our industry!

 
 

How To Have More Free Time: My Day Of The Conscious Nope

How To Have More Free Time: My Day Of The Conscious Nope

I have a confession.

I pride myself on knowing my greatest talents and strengths, yet they sometimes get me into trouble and it drives me absolutely insane.  

I don’t think I’m alone.  

We all have strengths and talents that let us do incredible things, but there’s also a “dark side”.  Our strengths can also get the best of us if left unguarded or misunderstood.  

For me, it’s my Responsibility and Harmony.  I know what you’re thinking, “Those seem like goodie two-shoes themes. How in the world do they get you in trouble?”

First of all, I don’t mean TROUBLE, Trouble.  I just mean they leave me cursing myself for my inability to reign it all in.  So, maybe instead of the "dark side" of talent, I should call it, Talent Exuberance.

Let me explain.

How To Handle The Most Misunderstood Audition

How To Handle The Most Misunderstood Audition

Yippee! You have an audition!   

Then, dread. It’s a one-liner.

I know what you’re thinking.  How will I stand out? How will I let the CD know what a good actor I am and that I can cry on cue?  What about my Meisner Training?

Throw it all out the window!  (But not too far.. you’ll need all of this when the guest star auditions roll in).  

How We Can Turn Hollywood On Its Head

How We Can Turn Hollywood On Its Head

Let's Start a Revolution.

Who's with me? Wouldn’t it be incredible if we could take the entertainment industry by storm and move it from a fear-based, nebulous entity to one where we all speak the same language – a language of strengths, self-certainty and positive growth?

That’s the kind of revolution I’m talking about.